You go out to dinner with a group of friends and somebody always stops you as you reach out for an olive, because they simply MUST take a picture of the olive bowl before anybody touches it. It hardly matters if you all know the olives came straight out of a can.

We live in a world where, more and more, experiences are shared. We could almost say (whether we like it or not) that, when things are not shared, it's as if they hadn't happened (that is perhaps something to reflect on some other time).

And young people share even more. Because if you're leaving your home, moving to a new country and city, learning a new language, sharing life with a family who does things differently... these are all experiences that a young person may choose to share.

It makes sense, then, that there are thousands of au pair and nanny blogs out there, in multiple languages, as well as pages that aggregate said blogs by country or city, to inspire other au pairs or Erasmus students who might choose to visit the same places.

For a lot of au pairs, writing a blog or sharing on Facebook/Instagram/Twitter is also a way of keeping in touch with friends and family, and sharing the experience with them.

Till here, no problem.

The problem can arise when the au pair or nanny and the host family have a different idea about what should or should not be shared. It's worth remembering here that we don't all feel equally comfortable with online exposure, and that it's just one more thing to speak about at the start of a relationship with your au pair or host family.

When it comes to the children, particularly, it's best to follow the guidelines set by the parents.

For au pairs and nannies who are now arriving at their host family's place and still have not had a chance to speak about this topic, some recommendations to avoid posting things the family might prefer not to see on social media:

  • Don't mention names and last names
  • Don't include the home address, or details that make it easy to identify
  • Don't take or post photos, particularly of the children, without permission
  • Basically, take a second before posting to think, what will the other person think about this if they see it.